Archive for December, 2009

New Moon, New Year, New Decade!

December 31, 2009

Today we get to say good bye to 2009 and welcome 2010! We were up at 5:45 this morning to drive my sister to the airport and happened to view the most spectacular sunrise and full moon set over the ocean. Hopefully we’ll all be up from naps to see the sunset and new moon rise tonight. I’ve stocked up on sparkling juice, hats, poppers and noise makers to celebrate the end of a fabulous year and toast the upcoming New Year which will be filled with lots of love and laughter.

I’ve been on the Lupron for four days now and haven’t noticed any effects from it. My sister enjoyed giving me injections while she was here; hoping to inflict a little pain on me but it didn’t work. I can barely feel the needle, just a little itch afterward. January 2nd is my last day of birth control pills and then I go in for an ultrasound on the 6th to check my uterus’ progress.

Time to start thinking about New Years Resolutions…



Just an Itty Bitty Poke

December 27, 2009

I gave myself my first Lupron injection tonight! Honestly, I’d rather do this one on my own because it calls for pinching the belly fat and I don’t want anyone squeezing my tummy. The needle was teeny, the size they use for insulin injections and I barely felt the prick. Now I’m taking birth control and Lupron and hope it doesn’t make me too crabby. Thankfully, all of this is only temporary!


December 26, 2009

Today was one of those fabulous days! I got a radio flyer push tricycle that looks brand new off Craigslist for $35 and scored an Old Navy $50 off $100 purchase from I love getting a good deal! Tomorrow is day one of Lupron injections. I’m excited that we are getting closer to the transfer! All of our Christmas décor comes down tomorrow, so my birthday isn’t overshadowed. Sandwiched between Christmas and New Years, I’ve always felt a bit cheated when it comes to my birthday. I am thankful that it doesn’t fall on a major holiday though. In store for the big 31 is a pedicure (thanks to my sister) and sushi dinner with one of my other sisters that is coming to visit. I need a sashimi fix before I have a baby in my belly! Mama to be is a Capricorn too; perhaps that is why everything has gone so smoothly. Starting tomorrow, the countdown really begins, one month till transfer!

Drug Delivery

December 23, 2009

I got my drugs today along with the most delicious homemade veggie tamales. I made the mistake of giving my little boy a bite…he LOVED them! They were so good I didn’t want to share but did because that’s what good moms do. The intended parents are such thoughtful, caring and generous people. I am so happy to be doing this for them! A box labeled PERSONAL & CONFIDENTIAL was filled with lots and lots of needles, lupron, progesterone and a few other prescriptions I don’t have instructions on yet. I’ve been on the pill for a few weeks now and I’ve finally mellowed out a bit or perhaps I’m just getting used to my moods. I’m interested to see how the lupron will affect me. I start injections in four days!

I have almost wrapped up all of my Christmas shopping, getting it done stealthily with a 17 month old and a four year old has been an accomplishment in itself. Today we came home to a big box from FED EX at the door with pictures of their “Santa” present all over it. They did warn me during the online check out that the play kitchen ships directly from the manufacturer and the box may reveal its contents. Yes, it had pictures plastered on three sides! Thankfully, I was the first one to see it so I managed to cover it up and shove it into the house before they could see what it was. Phew! I can’t wait to see their excitement on Christmas morning. They have been very good this year. I’ve been talking to my four year old about the baby and she is completely accepting of it and understands that it is someone else’s baby, I’m just going to let it grow in my belly and then it will go to them when its born. She still remembers her brother’s birth and is hoping she gets a new toy when this baby comes too.

I’m projecting my thoughts into the future a lot these days. With 52 weeks in a year, and pregnancy lasting 40, I tend to think about the seasons and holidays in pregnancy terms (as in how far along and BIG I’ll be). If all goes well, by this time next year I’ll be a few months post pregnancy and a new little baby will be enjoying his or her first Christmas with their amazing, loving family.

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Happy Holidays!!

Merry Me, Mocktails and Holiday Cheer!

December 19, 2009

Tis the season to celebrate: family, love, giving and the reason for the season, whatever that may be for you. I have so much to be grateful for and am so blessed to have two amazing children, wonderful family and friends and overall a very happy life. We FINALLY got a Christmas tree up and I had no idea there would be such controversy over an artificial tree! I got an amazing deal on a 7.5 pre-lit tree from Macy’s. I was so proud of my tree that I posted a picture on Facebook and got a couple comments about not having a REAL tree. The more I thought about it, the more I liked my tree. It will never die, I didn’t have to get all sticky and sappy hauling it home (which would have been a challenge in itself), no watering, no vacuuming up pine needles, and I won’t have a dead tree to dispose of after the holidays. Mine will resurrect year after year! Perhaps it is the hormones, but I am sensitive about everything these days.

Rather than sipping champagne over the holidays, I’m getting creative in the kitchen and concocting some lovely mocktails. I have already replaced coffee with fresh grapefruit or carrot beet parsley juice and peppermint tea in the morning and have sparkling water with a splash of juice with dinner. A few pomegranate seeds, champagne sparkling water, and a splash of pomegranate juice make a festive and healthy drink.

As for the blog, I am going to share my experiences throughout the pregnancy. This will be my third pregnancy, the first that is “planned” and the baby will be not mine, this time!

Happy Holidays to all!

November and December Notes

December 18, 2009

November 12th

I received the surrogacy contract from my attorney yesterday. Thirty seven pages, yikes! It’s all good though and it is finally feeling real. I have an appointment with the psychologist next Wednesday, a three hour interview. A couple things in the contract I hadn’t considered are the travel limitations after the 22nd week. I was hoping to go up North this summer but now we’ll have to wait and see! After week 22 I can’t leave California and once I’m in the third trimester I can’t go more than 100 miles from town without the doctor and intended parents consent.

November 19th

All went well yesterday for the psychological consultation. Having a degree in psychology might have made it all easier to relate to. It was an hour and a half face to face interview with an intern in marriage and family counseling and then 526 true or false statements on the computer. The interview questions covered everything about me, my life, relationships, medical history of mine and my ancestors and my views on everything from religion to abortion. We met in her office, a typical “counseling room.” There was a sofa, chairs, a nice comfortable setting. She entered all of my responses into her computer as we talked. Some quotes, some notes. After giving her my life story, I did the true/false portion on the computer. The statements ranged from simple to bizarre, some making me laugh out loud. It was a relief to have that out of the way!

December 2nd

Seeing RED! Contracts are signed, health insurance is in place, and I started my period. Called the clinic and have to go down on the 4th for blood work and to pick up birth control pills. So excited.

December 8th

They took 10 vials of blood for testing last week and I started birth control to get our periods synced. I’ll continue on the pill until we have our schedule for retrieval and transfer. I went back down to the fertility clinic today for a saline ultrasound and cultures. My cervix and uterus look healthy! We are using the mom to be’s egg and her husband’s sperm. They are young and healthy, but she’s had complications that prevent her from carrying. I feel so blessed to have this opportunity to do such an amazing thing for such wonderful people that want to expand their family.

I have eliminated caffeine and alcohol, am taking my prenatal vitamins daily and juicing like crazy. I am feeling a little crabby from the pill. It makes me irritable.

December 16th

We have a schedule! I begin nightly Lupron injections into my belly on December 27th. The needles are little and not so scary. I’m more worried about how hormonal I’ll be! I take my last birth control pill on January 2nd and will hopefully start my period around the 5th. On the 7th I go back in for an ultrasound and blood test to check my progress. We’re aiming for egg retrieval on January 21st or 22nd and implantation on the 26th or 27th. It’s amazing how it is all coming together. Science is incredible and at the same time we must rely on nature to do its part.

Rewind – Journal Notes from September

December 18, 2009

September 9th, 2009

Just met with mom to be and I’m so excited to begin this journey. I called the surrogacy coordinator at the fertility clinic to get more details. She asked my birth date, how many kids, vaginal or cesarean and if there were any complications. Told her about my second delivery, with the cord around E’s neck and how I have very quick labors. She gave me the rundown about the hormone injections and the general process. I asked her about nursing and if that would affect anything. I have to have E weaned for three months before we can begin. I called mom to be and let her know they thought I’d be an excellent candidate. If they are ready to commit, so am I!

E is 14 months old, the age I weaned K, and I am more than ready. I think he’d breastfeed through elementary school if he had the choice. We are down to twice a day and he doesn’t eat much so it shouldn’t be too difficult. He’s been drinking milk and soymilk from a sippy cup for a couple months now.

September 10th

Once I decided to go on with this journey I began to read, read, read. Blogs, websites, everything I could find on the subject. I’ve also committed to weaning. I’m nursing for very brief amounts of time after giving him milk. It seems to be harder on me than him. I’ve had several episodes of mastitis with both kids and was worried about clogged ducts. I’ve been using cabbage compresses, and using my cold rice pillow often.  I’m feeling a tinge of sadness for being done nursing but have been ready for a while to become a little more independent and less like a cow. This afternoon one of my breasts got so engorged and painful that I had E nurse a little to relieve the pressure. No problem for E at bedtime, he’s ready to move on! All of my feelings about the surrogacy are still positive and I have had tremendous support from those I’ve told.

September 11th

I nursed E once very briefly to relieve the pressure.

September 12

Gave E just a sip in the morning. Drinking sage/peppermint tea, cabbage compresses, and a tight sports bra and still sore!

September 16th

Today is our fourth day after weaning and all is good. One breast is still very sore but no longer engorged. Yay! I made an appointment for a consultation next Thursday, the 24th. I am very excited to start this incredible journey. I mentioned it casually to K (she’s 3.5), as long as she gets a toy out of it she’s happy. She said she wants another baby someday. I on the other hand am more than content with two.

September 24th

Consultation went well. I met with the doctor and coordinator to review medical history. He did a vaginal ultrasound to make sure my uterus looked good. They recommended taking care of the legal and psychological aspects between now and December, so we’d be ready to go.

It’s really happening!

December 17, 2009

A little over three months ago a friend asked if I’d be interested in being a gestational surrogate. My initial feeling was an absolute yes, but I knew this was a huge commitment with all sorts of possible challenges and something I really needed to fully process. After giving it much thought, weighing out the positives and possible negatives, it seemed like such a wonderful thing to do. We met to casually discuss our views on the situation and both felt it was a natural fit. I had a phone consultation with the surrogacy coordinator at the fertility clinic and was given my first task to get the ball rolling. They couldn’t begin the medical side of the process until three months after breastfeeding has stopped. My son was 14 months old and I was ready for my nursing days to be over. Since then, I have undergone a psychological evaluation, dealt with life insurance, health insurance, the contract, attorneys, had two ultrasounds, a pap smear, and given 10 vials of blood for screening. The three months flew by and here we are, with a schedule! I started birth control pills on December 4th and will begin Lupron injections on the 27th, which is a synthetic version of the naturally occurring gonadotropin releasing hormone and suppresses shedding of the lining of the uterus during menstruation. I will continue taking the pill until December 2nd. If all goes well, I’ll start my period a few days later. The mom to be will go in for egg retrieval on the 21st and we’ll transfer ONE embryo on the 26th!

I am truly looking forward to being pregnant again. I’ve had two easy pregnancies and quick, drug free (with the exception of pitocin to induce with the 2nd) labors. I am thrilled to be able to carry a baby for an amazing family, and give them peace of mind knowing their offspring is in a happy and healthy womb.